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The Estrangement of Trans Gay Men from Cis Gay Men

femmesandfamily:

this. read this.

This is great.  And I’m glad he addressed race towards the end a bit, because I read most of this wanting to insert “white” in front of “cis gay male culture”.  

From my experience as a white queer man in NYC who inhabits spaces in the queer world that are not what I would typically call “white cis gay male” spaces but more “queer largely POC spaces that tend to be on the masculine side”, I would say, at least in my world, the MAAB trans people of my life are still very much a part of a queer men of color space.  Let’s not pretend I know what I’m talking about fully and that my ideas are well formed and feel free to complicate this or help me along tumblr friends.  

All this to say, interesting read but I wish it talked about how race plays into this because it does on huge levels.

(Source: transthings)

5 months ago
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Sometimes while I ride the subway I try to look at each person and imagine what they look like to someone who is totally in love with them. I think everyone has had someone look at them that way, whether it was a lover, or a parent, or a friend, whether they know it or not. It’s a wonderful thing, to look at someone to whom I would never be attracted and think about what looking at them feels like to someone who is devouring every part of their image, who has invisible strings that are connected to this person tied to every part of their body. I think this fun pastime is a way of cultivating compassion. It feels good to think about people that way, and to use that part of my mind that I think is traditionally reserved for a tiny portion of people I’ll meet in my life to appreciate the general public. I wish I thought about people like this more often. I think it’s the opposite of what our culture teaches us to do. We prefer to pick people apart to find their flaws. Cultivating these feelings of love or appreciation for random people, and even for people I don’t like, makes me a more forgiving and appreciative person toward myself and people I love. Also, it’s just a really excellent pastime.

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thank you amara for posting this. this article is intensely important and i hope people take the time to read it.

1 year ago
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